Good Monday
to you. Hope you have had a relaxing weekend.
Today’s
inspirational photo is more than a color board or a palette to inspire us for the week. It is an image of celebration.
Last week
was a week to remember - one of those, so unreal - with a mix of highs and lows, that if it was in a film script you
would never believe its credibility – yes, one of those!
One of the memorable
occurrences from last week was definitely the birthday of my eldest son - he was 14! I confess I didn’t see it
coming until a few days beforehand, and it was scary. Where has the time gone?
14 years really go fast, and for a mother that is the realization that, not
only you are getting a little ‘old’, but also your baby is no more. I am indeed
being overdramatic, but I think the occasion calls for it, don’t you? (It’s not
every day you get a ‘wake up’ slap in the face…but more on that later in the
text!)
The mix
feelings of it all, the happiness and contentment to see them enjoy ‘their’ so awaited
day; together with the longing for times past when they were babies, toddlers…so
much ours!
The moment I saw my son for the first time, my first child, it was
the very moment I thought my eyes never ever seen anything more beautiful in
this world. I was completely and utterly smitten! My world collapsed (for the
better, I may add!), it revolved on its own axis and changed, as well as my
views and priorities. I became a mother, and without realizing, a better
person. Or at least, a person that suddenly started walking a different path – the
path leading to the future.
My son came to save my life, I always believed that…and
even more so now. So this is for him!
The beautiful
inspirational photo, not only means a ‘party’, a celebration, a birthday, but
also the art of letting go.
Sometimes we are faced with less than good experiences, events and people that
do their best to knock us down on our knees…and if it happens suddenly, when
you least expect it, well, it’s even worse. Oh, and did I mention: from the
people you thought were supposed to actually care for you, the ones you love the
most…?!
Good people
with big hearts always trust too much, love too much, help too much, give too
much, and so end up being hurt the most. But my advice to you, if you love intensely and immensely never
ever apologize for your superpower! Keep spreading it, be yourself - the world
is so much better with it, and with you in it.
Loss, pain,
humiliation, rejection are all feelings that one day every one of us must deal
with. It is hard, it is painful, but maybe they’re put on your way for a
reason.
Everything you go through grows
you.
During teenage years people (well, most of us!) endure relationships as
a need for the approval of someone else for us to feel complete, to feel good
about ourselves or to feel we have a purpose. Our first love is some spotty insignificant kid instead of ourselves.
How silly, right?! So why do we keep making that same mistake as adults? Are we
that hungry for acceptance? Surely not.
Maybe loneliness takes over; or the love of being in love; or maybe, simply,
you think you found a very special person indeed, that someone you have been
waiting for, that one you know you deserve…and you fill yourself with eternal
hope.
This week I
have also been to consult some Tibetan monks, who talked about (aside from many
other things) Universal Love - the
art of compassion, of forgiveness, of loving the un-loveable.
Their view is
that if enemies, those who do you wrong, who wish you the worst (even if they
are the ones closer to you) those are truly the ones who teach you the most.
Those are the ones we should be more grateful for finding in our lives, as they
make us change, grow and make us appreciate the good things in life…when they
come.
Without darkness how can we appreciate light?
So let’s not
fill ourselves with pain and regret, and whatever else dooms and glooms. It hurts when someone just suddenly decides to take the floor off your feet with no care, regardless of your feelings, plans and dreams, it feels like a punch in the stomach, the sparkle disappears from your eyes, the sunshine disappears from your days.
We are
smart enough and strong enough NOT to be defeated by the idiots, the selfish and
the ungrateful spoilt brats of this world who are just too blind to see your greatness.
As Oprah says - You surely don’t want to be with
someone who doesn't want to be with you, right?
And after you have seen them in the correct light, after
the rupture of trust, you will be certain of that.
But oh, you
will be amazed with all the good things that come when you are down. You can
truly see your real friends, and how
compassionate and kind people can actually be. You will see some people in
brand new light, when they offer you a shoulder to cry on, a hug or simply make
an effort to make you laugh. That, my friends, it’s what it is all about in the
end.
It doesn't really
matter who hurt you, or broke you down, what matters is who made you smile again.
Invest in the good things.
Let bad things
be gone, and for good. They have done you a favor after all, they are just
passing by…good things are here to stay – and those who are good to you, they
stay in your life...they want to!
Some people
will only love you as long as you fit in their box. Don’t be afraid to disappoint.
Be true to yourself and to what you truly deserve.
Let go. Simply.
It
hurts, it’s hard, but letting go of something bad should be easy. It makes you
grow, it makes you lighter. And in the end, if letting go means being apart from something good…it will surely come back to you. What is truly yours will always find its way back to you.
Be true to
yourself, trust your instincts (especially your first impressions, they are
never wrong!)…and have a great week filled with all those little things that
make you happy!
Love, Pippa xoxo
